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October 1, 2012

on October 1, 2012

Treasures from the walkAnother post I’ve been sitting on, for some reason.  Sigh.  Getting there.

Anyway, we had a rough few days with Teagan.  After visiting the Aquarium, last Sunday, we had to leave a bit early, both girls were too tired.  They became little monsters, that we didn’t want to be around in public.  Teagan did fall asleep almost before we got out of the parking lot.

Unfortunately, after her power nap, she wasn’t much better.  So, Sunday was the first time she was sent to bed early.  As a punishment.  Before she had finished dinner.  She was still pushing everything, not listening, being willful and defiant.  By the time she was three quarters through her dinner we both were fed up and Stu took her up to her room for the night.  What seemed to upset her the most, not that we were unhappy with her behavior, but that she hadn’t finished her dinner and that her sister was downstairs watching “Signing Time” without her.  Eventually she calmed down.  Stu talked her down from the screeching, unhappy little girl that howled up the stairs.

She woke up promising to be better.  And asking for her leftover dinner, which Stu had actually put in the fridge for her.  She had maccaroni and cheese for breakfast!

Unfortunately, she wasn’t able to keep her promise.  Again, she gave us a near repeat Monday night. More screeching, crying, promising to be good, telling us that she could be a good girl.  Insisting she was a good girl, and would listen now.  Right. We’ve totally heard that story before.  So, she had another early night.

Tuesday, she was better, and Wednesday and Thursday.  Friday, well, she called one of her teachers a name.  This teacher asked her to be quiet during nap time.  Teagan didn’t want to, she said “no” then called the teacher a pig.  Horrifying.  I have no idea where she even got the idea of calling someone a mean name like that.  Day care told her that we don’t call people names.  Day care made Stu sign a note.  He was mortified.  We told her that we don’t call people bad things.  She said she’d be good, and wouldn’t do it again.

As I was getting her ready for bed, she called me something – a fart, a burp – I don’t remember what any more and then laughed.  I told her that she had just lost her books for doing something mean like that.  She thought she was being funny.  Apologized, but she knew she wasn’t getting any books.  A few minutes later, she called me a poop.  I picked her up and carried her to bed, telling her that her behavior was unacceptable, and made me sad. Stu came up, hearing the commotion, and reinforced the message.

We were dreading the weekend, but she was quite good.  Fun. She got to play with her friend G for a bit.  And she learned how to pedal her tricycle! All by herself!

She was pretty good today too :D


4 responses to “October 1, 2012

  1. Kat says:

    :-( Sorry to hear that Teagan and family are having such a time. Name calling…hmmm….didn’t think it started that young. She’s hearing it somewhere and since it’s not at home, daycare seems to be the answer. Are there ‘bullies’ in her class?? Surely the teachers know these other kids…you know the ones that need constant discipline? Makes me sad too. Wish I could be of more help. The tricycle thing is awesome; however, now it can be used as a tool….as punishment. taking it away, like her books, tv, etc. OR OR OR as a reward, yeah, a reward for being a good girl. There!!! From negative thought to postivie thoughts. Hang in there!!

    • lisasff says:

      Thanks, Kat. It’s sort of sad to see the innocence diminish… to see her get the bad bits of growing up, not like they’re unexpected, just not expected yet.

      Now, it’s one of the things we rattle through, have her rattle through, before we drop her off at day care. There used to be a trouble maker, but he’s moved on, to a different center or to kindergarten… Not sure if there’s another one that stepped into his vacated shoes. We haven’t been told of any new incidents, though she’s done it a few times with us at home, when she’s upset.

  2. Kris A says:

    3 was much harder than 2 because they can say hurtful things…and mean to hurt you. You look at your adorable little baby who has given you tons of hugs and kisses and then they say something mean. Keep up the good work. It’s hard, I know. We were tough with Katie and she has never even raised her voice at us. Thomas is working hard on tone of voice right now..we will beat him into submission…LOL.

    • lisasff says:

      This, exactly. She *knows* she’s doing something bad and wrong. She’s also picking up a tone, too. And oh, that really burns me. She’s been sent up to bed early a few times thanks to her actions… she’s beginning to get the message. Her saving grace? She still loves to give hugs and kisses.

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